How Culture Influences Us at Work 1: Etiquette & Behaviour


How we greet each other.

What’s considered common courtesy.                  

What’s considered impolite.                                        

How we show respect and disrespect.                       

What is embarrassing.                                                

What we find humorous.                                 

What is rude humour.                                            

Seating placement in a room.  

How closely we stand next to each other.

How we touch each other.

What we eat and how we eat.

The holidays we celebrate.

What we wear.

The division between home and work.

                                

Great Speakers 2: Carly Fiorina

Carly Fiorina, ex Hewlett Packard CEO, was known as one of the most powerful business women in the world. Whatever people think of her decisions in management, she is often called a great speaker.

Listen to her use of voice, and feel the emotional impact of using simple language to talk about complex truths. This is an example of business communication eloquence – a rare thing.

How To: Handle Conflict At Work


Here is a simple style guide for situations where there is disagreement.

 

1. De-emotionalise communication.

Use emotion in negotiation situations only when you choose to deliberately.

Emotion is reflected in body language, voice (speed, volume, tone, intonation) and choice of words.

Try to rise above the issue. This is seen as more professional and managerial.

 

2. Depersonalise communication : Be hard on the problem not on the person.

Avoid personalised language:

Compare:

You don’t understand the situation  and that is why you don’t agree.”

with this version….

“This is a tough situation and I think we should think about that complexity before deciding finally.”

3.Use less absolute, definite language. Be aware of the effect of strong language and use if only if you choose deliberately to do so.

e,g dead end, red line, loosing situation,

e.g  Instead of  “You are forcing me to reach a dead end.”

You could say, “Taking that approach leaves me little room for options.”

4. Give commentary on the situation that describes the process you see as taking place:

e.g. I understand why you are asking me to come , but there is someone in the marketing team who could help you better in this case .

Adding understanding in this way makes searching for solutions an easier task.

5. Don’t just focus on the short term problem.

See the particular matter under discussion within the context of other negotiations and management interaction over a longer period.

How To: Do Small Talk

In an age of too much technology, Small Talk is becoming a lost art. Good small talk starts with a real interest in other people and you must be willing to connect. But small talk can be the beginning of great things. 

1. As you prepare for a meeting or event, come up with 2 or 3 three things to talk about as well as 3 general questions that will get others talking. Try to remember things about the people you have met before.
2. Be the first to say “Hello.” If you’re not sure the other person will remember you, offer your name first to make things smoother. For example, “Dan? David Green — good to see you again.” .
3. Make an extra effort to remember names.
4. Watch your body language. People who look ill at ease make others uncomfortable. Act confident and comfortable, even when you’re not.
5. Get the other person talking by leading with a statement regarding the event or location and then asking a related open-ended question. For example, “Attendance looks higher than last year, how long have you been coming to these conferences?”
6. Stay focused on your conversational partner by actively listening and giving feedback. Maintain eye contact. Never glance around the room while they are talking to you. To be seen looking for someone   “better “ to talk to is very insulting.
7. Stay away from negative or controversial topics .
8. Have something interesting to contribute. Keep up an interest in (non-controversial) news and start conversations based on that.   You could start with
“What do you think of …?”       “Have you heard …?”      “What is your view on …?”
9. Before joining another group or entering into a conversation that’s already in progress, observe and listen. You don’t want to interrupt the dynamic or butt in.
10. Do not tell long-winded stories or give a lot of detail in casual conversation.
11. Have a few exit lines ready so that you can both gracefully move on. For example, “I need to check in with a colleague over there,” or “ Well, enjoy the evening” or  you can offer to refresh their drink.

PowerPoint Basics

Make sure that your slides are not overloaded with information.

Make sure they are readable – font size and right colour.

Make them simple.

Reduce the amount of text on your slides.

Use images – PowerPoint is a visual medium.

Don’t overuse bullet points slides.

Use animation and sound effects very selectively.

Go for more white space.

Create interesting titles for your slides.

Consider when and if to hand out print-outs of your slides.

Remember in slideshow view you can use the B key to get a black screen

and press it again to bring the slide back. The same thing works with the W key

to get a white screen.

 

Remember:

1. The 20 second rule.

 If an audience have not completely understood what the slide is trying to tell them within 20 seconds the slide may need changing!

2.The Squint Test.

If an audience has to squint to read a slide it needs changing.

How To: Handle Question Time

Handling Difficult Questions

Preparing for questions should be an integral part of preparing the content of your communication preparation. It follows on from the question “What’s on the audience’s minds?”.

In preparing answers for the more difficult questions that you may be asked start from a point of sincerity. In an era of informed audiences only open and honest communication will be successful.

Despite that, some the strategy you choose depends on the situation, the style of questions (friendly, neutral, hostile) and the image you want to convey. You should know all of these techniques so that you can vary your answering style .

  1. UNDERSTANDING

Show you understand ( friendly and neutral situations)

  1. ALTERNATIVE VIEW

Introduce an alternative way of looking at things (friendly, neutral & hostile situations)

  1. LET THE AUDIENCE DECIDE

In meetings, feed back the question to the audience and let them decide amongst themselves.

  1. ESCALATE

Agree and say that the question will be passed on to the right people.

  1. TAKE OFFLINE

Say that you will check or get an answer from the right person and do that.

How To: Handle The Media

Speaking to the media is one of the most counterintuitive things you will ever do. While authenticity is supremely important in the age of Wikileaks, just being yourself is not enough.

Believe that the facts alone do not speak for themselves.

It is not the objective facts that create people’s viewpoints, but how they are presented.

Relate to what’s on the audience’s mind and how people think.

A media interview is less about a conversation with a reporter and more about talking to the viewer.

Think before you speak. You must always have a point.

Stay on Message.

Think of your appearance as a platform to express your main messages coherently not just to answer questions.

Remember that once you have said something it is out there.

No amount of clarifications and explanation will remove it.

Prepare for all questions – particularly the hard ones.

Cultivate the press and charm the audience.

Know the needs of both of these audiences. Package your information so that it is media-friendly and helps them “feed the beast” with stories which are newsworthy, containing detail and colour.

Pre-empt sensitive situations if you can.

You can then define the issue and have opposition on the defensive.

Think before you act but in the end always act.

You have less than a few hours to respond or Twitter will do it for you.  In sensitive situations always respond – otherwise you are causing damage.

Be accessible. Treat every media enquiry as if it were critical.

Don’t dismiss minor league players as unimportant

Grabbing Your Audience

 

GRABBERS & ATTENTION UPPERS

This is a list of techniques so you can add interest to your in your one-to many communication. Try sprinkling them throughout your presentations. You should aim for at least one every 2 – 3 minutes.

  • Simple numbers
  • Quotations
  • An amazing fact or statistic
  • A problem or teaser
  • One word as a teaser e.g UNCERTAINTY
  • Asking the audience to do something
  • A gift
  • A prop
  • Personal Anecdotes
  • Stories with a message
  • Parables
  • Humour
  • Word pictures – highly visual description
  • A compelling slide
  • Metaphors
  • Axioms
  • A demonstration
  • Actual dialog
  • Specific examples
  • Slogans
  • Photographs  ( + story )
  • A short video or audio clip